Get Epic Shit Done (by Ankur Warikoo): Part 4 (Managing Yourself)

Hi everyone,

Writing this post after a gap of 2-3 weeks. Was fairly regular last month but could not find time in between.

This is part 4 (last part) of my 4-blog series on the Book Summary of the book "Get Epic Shit Done" authored by Ankur Warikoo. I have tried to be as brief as possible in this post. For those who want more details and context, I strongly urge you to read the book. 

Amazon/Audible/Kindle link: Available here!

Goodreads link: Here!

"Get Epic Shit Done" is written as a conversation between a student and a teacher and is based on 36 frequently asked questions related to life as such, which prompts the reader to get into action...

So, without further ado, let's get into action of going through the book!

The book is divided into 4 sections and written in a question answer format covering the 36 FAQs on life. The 4 sections of the book are:

1. Managing your life (i.e., FAQs 1-9 are covered in part 1 of this blog series; refer here)
2. Managing your career (i.e., FAQs 10-19 are covered in part 2 of this blog series; refer here)
3. Managing people (i.e., FAQs 20-28 are covered in part 3 of this blog series; refer here)
4. Managing yourself (i.e., FAQs 29-36 are covered in the current part (part 4) of this blog series)

This blog post covers the fourth section in detail. 

Managing Yourself (Part 4 of the book)

29. How do I develop patience?

• In today's world, there are challenges of developing patience as instant gratification is readily available.
• The author talks about experiences of different generations, highlighting how limited access to instant gratification in the past fostered patience.
• Practical strategies are proposed for developing patience, such as delaying gratification and resisting impulsive actions.
• There is a need for patience with the importance of action and hustle, emphasizing the distinction between being patient with results and impatient with effort.

"What isn’t your fault is still your responsibility. Just because you didn’t create the problem doesn’t mean you don’t solve the problem."

30. How can I have a sleep routine?

• Habits create positive results: Although routines are often disliked, they are essential for long-term well-being. This applies to sleep routines as well.
• Prioritize sleep: A healthy sleep routine involves going to bed and waking up at the same time every day, even on weekends. This helps regulate your body's natural sleep-wake cycle.
• Create a relaxing bedtime routine: Avoid stimulating activities like screen time before bed. Instead, focus on calming activities like reading, journaling, or listening to soft music.
• Start your day mindfully: Waking up slowly and intentionally sets the tone for a positive and productive day. This could involve simple practices like drinking water, stretching, or meditating.
• Make gradual changes: Don't try to drastically change your sleep schedule overnight. Instead, make small adjustments over time to allow your body to adapt gradually.

"No one loves adhering to routines. But everyone LOVES the results routines bring."

31. How do I build good habits? 

• Understanding the Importance of Habits: The author discusses the significance of habits in conserving mental energy, emphasizing that habits are actions performed repeatedly to the point where they become automatic.
• Building Gradual Habits: Make changes gradually when forming new habits, citing the example of waking up early. The approach involves making small, manageable adjustments over time to reduce resistance from the body.

• Motivation through Progress: 

  The author emphasizes the role of a clear motive in building habits and maintaining motivation. Progress towards the motive is identified as a key factor in keeping the mind engaged and motivated to continue the habit-building process.

• Habits v/s. Goals: 

  The author explores the idea that habits are more effective than goals, arguing that consistent, small improvements lead to significant outcomes over time. The conversation suggests that habits, unlike goals, allow for continuous progress without the pressure of specific achievements.

"Habits that give big results start small. Because they are a consequence of pleasure, not pressure."

32. How can I be more self-aware?

• Self-awareness is key to understanding why we do what we do and how to improve.
• Reflection is crucial for self-awareness, but it can be uncomfortable because it requires confronting our fears and biases.
• Most people avoid self-awareness because it is uncomfortable and challenging, but it is the only way to achieve real change.
• Self-awareness is a journey, not a destination, and it requires constant effort and commitment.

"Unless you know why you do something in the first place, you won’t be able to change it."

33. How can I live by myself?

• Living by yourself requires managing three aspects: money, health, and relationships.
• A budget can help you manage your money effectively. Aim for a 50:30:20 ratio for needs, wants, and investments.
• Living by yourself can lead to unhealthy habits. Prioritize healthy meals and avoid overindulgence.
• Take responsibility for your relationships. Avoid rebounding or making decisions based on others' expectations.
• Living by yourself is empowering, but it can also be lonely. Learn to be comfortable with yourself and make decisions that align with your values.

"Planning is easy. Execution requires discipline."

34. How do I manage my anger? 

• All anger stems from an unfulfilled need. When we feel angry, it's not just about the specific situation that triggered it, but about a deeper personal issue.
• There are three steps to manage anger:
• Recognize your anger: Pay attention to the physical and emotional sensations that arise when you start to get angry.
• Calm down: Take deep breaths and count to ten to give yourself time to cool down before reacting.
• Understand your anger: Reflect on what need is not being met that is causing your anger. This can be done through journaling, self-reflection, or even therapy.
• Understanding your anger helps you address the underlying issue and ultimately reduces the frequency and intensity of your anger.

"Anger’s purpose is to make us aware of an unresolved need. The moment we become aware of that need; anger has served its purpose."

35. How can I pick myself up? 

• The belief that life gets harder with time and failures are insurmountable makes it difficult to pick ourselves up.
• Failure is just a part of the journey, not the end result. Progress, not winning, should be the focus.
• We feel like failures when we doubt our ability to progress and eventually win.
• Experiencing progress, even in small ways, provides a sense of accomplishment and helps us pick ourselves up after setbacks.
• We often look for external sources to pick us up, but the power to do so lies within ourselves.
• Focusing on personal progress, rather than external achievements, is key to feeling like a winner even during challenges.

"You feel like a failure because you are not sure of winning again." 

36. How can I become my best friend?

• Self-love starts with treating yourself the way you would treat your best friend. Be kind, supportive, and non-judgmental towards yourself.
• Offer yourself help, validation, and love. Smile at yourself in the mirror, acknowledge your strengths and weaknesses, and learn to laugh at your own mistakes.
• Spending time with yourself is crucial for self-acceptance. Seek solitude and practice reflection through meditation, journaling, or simply quiet contemplation.
• Take responsibility for your own happiness. Find joy in your activities and relationships, without relying on others for your fulfillment.
• Love yourself before expecting others to love you. Toxic relationships often stem from a lack of self-love. By raising your standards for love, you attract healthier relationships.
• Take charge of your life. Stop blaming yourself or others for your circumstances. Embrace self-improvement and face the future with a positive and empowered attitude.

"There is only one person stopping you from being your own best friend: the person in the mirror."

 

So, with that, I wrap up the part 4 (i.e., the final part) of this book. Do feel free to go through the other 3 parts of this blog series to read about the earlier sections of this book. Hopefully it has some useful and thought-provoking insights for you. 

Also, just as a disclaimer, I am writing book summary blogs just as a hobby, and though I do encourage you to read the book, this is not a paid blog.  

I will be back soon with a summary of another book. Until then, this is Subin Khullar signing off.

Goodbye and take care...